Rediscover peace and strength in the midst of your heartbreak.
Infertility & Pregnancy Loss Therapy
Therapist specializing in compassionate online therapy for Christian individuals & couples throughout Ohio & Florida struggling to grow their family.
Infertility, Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant Loss are heartbreaking.
Is life with infertility or the loss of a baby overwhelming?
You were once pictured a happy and peaceful life of being married and having kids; however, reality has shattered that dream.
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Maybe you just received another negative pregnancy test or disappointing news after a recent treatment and are devastated and uncertain what your next step is. Or perhaps you’re trying to conceive again this month and have hope but fear you will be let down again in a few weeks.
Perhaps you just found out that yet another family member or friend is pregnant; but not you after months or years of trying to conceive, leaving you feeling left out, unsure of what your current purpose is, or helpless.
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Whether you were early in pregnancy or further along, you feel devastated that your baby is gone and feel lost in your grief.
Perhaps you’re reminded of your loss at gatherings and church, on social media, and everywhere you go, thinking about life would have been different if you’re baby was still with you. Or maybe you deal with people who don’t understand how heartbreaking your loss is or even say hurtful or dismissing things about it.
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Perhaps you’re feeling lonely, devastated, overwhelmed, angry, guilty, or afraid of the future. Maybe you feel like you, your body, or your marriage are failing.
Maybe you’re feeling stuck in your emotions or trauma and don’t know how to navigate when difficult emotions or reminders come up. Or you’re struggling to find joy in life, let alone handle daily responsibilities and the challenges that come day to day, month to month.
Whatever it is that you’re specifically going through, you’re beginning to notice the impact of this in every facet of your life:
Feeling heartbroken every time you are reminded of your suffering when you see happy families with their children around you and online.
Experiencing isolation and loneliness because your loved ones “don’t get it,” you feel disconnected from or upset with your spouse, you struggle to trust God’s plan, or you find yourself pulling away from relationships.
Feeling scared that your future will bring more heartbreak and that the family size you wanted is out of reach.
Infertility & Pregnancy Loss Therapy can help.
It may feel impossible now, but you can discover comfort and strength in the midst of your suffering with the help of a fellow Christian.
You can improve your relationship with your spouse, loved ones, God, and yourself and feel like you're no longer alone in your suffering.
You can find more clarity, trust in God, and peace and make sense of your suffering in light of your Christian faith, even if challenges continue. And I can help you get there.
Infertility & Pregnancy Loss Therapy helps you do 3 things:
Share
Experience a safe place to share the challenges of your infertility or loss journey and to be understood by a Christian therapist who’s been there and gets it.
Reflect
Receive sensitive and customized support and discover clarity about yourself, God, and living with infertility or the loss of a baby as a Christian.
Cope
Learn how to better navigate the waves of emotions and other challenges that come with infertility and loss, so you can restore strength, trust, and peace in your life.
I’ll help through this process, tailoring each step to your unique needs and circumstances in your individual or couples counseling sessions. My approach to infertility & pregnancy loss therapy comes from a place of hope: believing that with support, you and your spouse can experience peace and be better prepared for future challenges and future joys, no matter what happens next with your fertility journey.
Feeling devastated and defined by infertility or loss doesn’t have to be your story.
I can help you get there.
Common questions about Infertility & Pregnancy Loss Therapy
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Infertility & pregnancy loss therapy sessions with me are relaxed, conversational, and person-centered. No need for formality here- you can be yourself and I will be my authentic-therapist-self as we walk together through the ups and downs of your fertility journey and focus on helping you in what way you need. Some sessions are heavy when you need to unpack your experience with infertility or the loss of your baby; but there are other times when you need a laugh and we joke about how the University of Michigan still sucks or we are celebrating the relief you feel. Infertility & pregnancy loss therapy with me is collaborative and I welcome your feedback and questions. I show genuine care and respect for you in session to help you feel comfortable as we work together to achieve your goal of experiencing relief.
I like to start sessions with updates since your last session- how was Seattle? Did you get your most recent fertility test results back yet? How did you do with that recent loss anniversary? Then we will talk about what is on your mind: your past or recent experiences with infertility or loss, the impact it has on your life, other challenges or joys in your life, etc. We will spend much time in session giving you space to express and feel the emotions stemming from your experience, because let’s face it, there aren’t many places you can talk about it and feel understood. We also may learn more about living with infertility and loss and coping ideas, maybe even trying a coping exercise in session. All this is done with a warm and empathetic client-led approach. Finally, we will wrap up our conversation by confirming our next appointment and, if faith is important to you, closing with a personalized prayer offered by me just for you.
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Therapy may be a good fit for you if you are ready to not suffer alone anymore and are ready to walk with a supportive, caring professional on your path of infertility or baby loss. You may be afraid of the future and uncomfortable with your feelings, but you’re ready to face the discomfort of talking about them in order to get the help and relief you deserve. You are willing to self-reflect and have an open mind to what you may learn in session about yourself, your experience, and coping with infertility or loss. You’re ready to do what it takes in session and outside session in your daily life to restore peace and fulfillment in your life. Therapy is a big investment of time, money, and energy, but you are ready to commit to the process.
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As a male therapist, I offer a unique opportunity to work with a man who not only has specialized training and experience with supporting individuals and couples going through infertility and pregnancy loss, but also has personally experienced both infertility and miscarriage and understands the heartache at a deep level. I understand that each infertility or loss journey and each person is unique, so I take a person-centered approach to therapy to meet you in your unique needs! In a world where so many people don’t understand infertility and loss and what you’re going through, say hurtful things, don’t know how to support you, or offer unwanted advice, I offer a refuge where you can feel supported, encouraged, and assisted with what you really need.
Although I am a great fit for many people, if you are someone who specifically prefers working with a male therapist (maybe you’re a man yourself), wants a uniquely male perspective (perhaps as a woman trying to better relate with her male spouse), or thinks having a male therapist could make things easier (such as convincing your husband to come to therapy with you!), I can offer you a unique experience of working with a male therapist specializing in infertility and loss!
Also as a Christian therapist, I offer a blend of evidence-based mental health counseling for infertility & pregnancy loss and Christian spirituality for clients interested in incorporating their Christian faith for a more holistic approach to therapy. I could be a good option for you if you are looking for a therapist who is a fellow believer who will respect and not judge your Christian faith.
Although I specialize in providing therapy to Christians, you do not need to be Christian in order to work with me if we both believe I am a good fit for your needs! If you are not Christian, I am happy to provide secular evidence-based counseling for your unique infertility or loss journey that respects your specific spiritual background.
Learn more about me on my About Me page.
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How long you need to be in infertility and pregnancy loss therapy depends on your particular experience and individual needs. Many of my infertility clients find that ongoing counseling every 1-2 weeks is helpful when the ups and downs of infertility are rough for long periods of time; this could be for several months, a year, or more. Many of my pregnancy loss clients find it helpful to meet every 1-2 weeks until they believe they are doing better at coping with their grief and have adapted better to life after loss.
You will know when to decrease or discontinue sessions when you feel sufficient relief and are ready to face future challenges with less support from me. Ultimately, I want a timeline that works best for you, and I will tailor the counseling process to fit your unique needs. There is no “right” answer for everyone on this, but there is a good answer for you, and I’ll help you find it!
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I am happy to offer the convenience and flexibility of online therapy, allowing you to join session from wherever you are in the states of Ohio or Florida! Join session from home, schedule appointments during your workday, or whatever is convenient for you! For your online video sessions, you will need to be in a private and quiet space with a good internet connection and if in your car, parked in a stationary location. In order to do online sessions, you will need to complete a telehealth consent form in advance.
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Contact me to schedule a free consultation and I will reply to make it happen! During that 30-minute phone conversation, I will ask you to briefly describe your infertility or baby loss experience that brings you to counseling and your goals for our work together. I will answer any questions or concerns that you may have about starting therapy, to make sure you are confident I am a good fit for you! If we both agree I am a good fit for your needs, I will then ask for some additional basic information about you, confirm some logistical details, and confirm my current availability for scheduling. Finally, if we’re both ready, I will schedule your first appointment, and I will send you some instructions and the needed paperwork to complete before that appointment. Off we go!